The first step towards "just say no!" (See, Nancy Reagan was useful for something!)

Relationships facilitate development. In this sense, they are inherently selfish. Over the past few weeks I’ve learned--with no help from the Reagans,-- that I never turn down an opportunity. This has both positive and negative connotations. While opportunity opens new doors, it sometimes forces me to place the wishes of others above my own needs. Consider the case of The Citizen Magazine. Elaine, the editor, asked me to write an article, and I accepted. Then reality hit. Busy weekends and even busier weekdays prevented any serious composition. Work and friends were kept above the political fray.

"I want to write my pieces with passion and dedication. My efforts would be lackluster otherwise—and right now, I simply don't have the time." This was the gist of the email. There were no apologies or regrets. Writing for the magazine would stretch time to its breaking point. It's a sacrifice I don't have to make. Besides, I'm much happier with others.